Getting Past the Fear

One of the most difficult things I have found to accomplish in my business is to write articles. Every time I say I should write one, or have something great to share I find the reasons why I can’t and all the negativity surrounding that begins to take over.

Can you relate?  Not just with writing but in a few different areas in your life?  I’m sure you can.

I sometimes doubt my ability to share my knowledge. Not because I don’t know what I want to relay to my audience, it is that I question how I relay the message.  Is it clear enough? Will I be judged? Will it be good enough?  Man…That’s always the kicker question isn’t it?  Will I be good enough?

Until stepping out of my comfort zone, working with the coaches and mentors that have helped me out of my “non-deserving funk”, I doubted my ability and experience. I pretty much doubted everything.

Sometimes I say “if I would have known then what I know now”… you know the old saying, hindsight is 20/20.  You know where that leads you?  It’s just a longer journey down the road of self-doubt.

Hey, I’m the first one to admit that I started down that same path, and it was a long one.  But it was time to take real action. The problem was, I always stopped just before I would reach my end goal and that was signing up a client. I even started putting off writing about my incredible stories and my next book because of the whole “FEAR” issue.

But I finally got sick of being afraid. I became frustrated with seeing all the success of other coaches and mentors, all the while I yearned to join them. Plus I was tired of studying when I knew I already had all the knowledge I needed.

This past weekend was when I decided to make a change. I decided I deserve to be successful, I deserve to be wealthy and I deserve to have it all and then some. One of the first things I did after my event was share with my friend Randy.  Then I proceeded to watch the movie “Powder”. Now there is a movie about energy and how we all affect one another.

I then began the meditation process. It’s about going beyond the law of attraction and manifesting the life I deserved.  I also began to pick up the books that I have set aside. I had been too “busy” to read anything with meaning, I had to work. It is funny, hearing those words coming from a life coach isn’t it?  Sometimes, it just IS. Just goes to show that we are all similar…

I read about (and follow) Darren Jacklin, Dov Baron and many other of my mentors and friends.  These wonderful people have supported me in realizing where I was stuck.  I was not resonating at the level where I should be to attract the clients and speaking engagement that I wanted.  I was clear in my wants but my beliefs were all messed up.

I was getting so frustrated with the “why the heck am I not getting what I want. I work all the time. I am making things happen, but yet, there are no ongoing clients.” You know the story!

With that, I have already seen the changes. Being an author, motivational speaker and coach, this is being more transparent that I have been in a long time.  I have been playing a little on the “victim” side of the fence instead of being on the responsibility side.  By showing myself a little compassion, I decided that I can no longer play this game. It IS time to step up and step out of the box of crap.  THIS is exactly what I coach and speak about! Who you are and what your purpose and passions are is what we work on together.

I see how my mentors and colleagues, the ones I am inspired by, have gone through their own fears.  It’s all part of our growth process.  If you are not being pushed, if you are not living on the edge and reaching over and beyond, then you are not pushing hard enough.

I am grateful every day for the life I live. The trials and tribulations that have pushed from fear factor to deserving factor are just part of my legacy. As Dov Baron says “You are either Committed or you are Interested.”  The choice is yours.

Are you ready to step out of that Fear and Comfort zone and create the life you truly deserve? Are you ready to reach your purpose and live the life of certainty and not uncertainty?  You have the control and power to change the way you think, act and react! It’s all about you!

So if you have any fears that are holding you back, the first step to take is to identify what they are.  Is it success? Is it heights? Is it being alone?  Feel free to post a comment below and share your fears with me.  I am here to support and listen.

Here is to your personal best;



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