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How to Beat the Recession and Take Control of Your Money

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August 31, 2009

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How to Beat the Recession and Take Control of Your Money

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How is the recession affecting your household finances? Are you struggling to make ends meet? Are you living from pay check to pay check and wondering if you will ever get out of this endless cycle of financial stress? If this is you, then you are not alone.

Financial stress is one of the most common forms of stress that people experience and is one of the major reasons behind the huge number of divorces each year. Being “broke” is not pleasant, and almost anybody would do what they could to change their financial situation – if they knew how.

The good news is that you can take control of your finances, and it all starts with making the commitment to do so – and the decision to do whatever it takes to get to where you want to be financially.

To get out of your financial mess, the first thing you need to do is put together a budget that works for you. Remember it is pointless setting up a budget that is too restrictive because you will never stick to it, but on the other hand you don’t want one that is not restrictive enough. Otherwise you will never get out of the financial hole that you’re in.

Here are 7 simple and easy ideas on how you can save a few extra dollars:

1-Create a Budget that works for you
2-Set Goals and Live by Your Values
3-Review and Evaluate Your expenses
4-Avoid using your credit card and pay cash
5-Create a vision?
6-How much money do you REALLY make?
7-How you too could make some extra money?

Of course, in order to get anywhere in life, it is important that you set goals. This goes for financial goals too. If you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know you’re on track or when you have reached your destination? Your goals must be in line with your personal values too. So sit down now and establish your financial goals. This step alone is extremely powerful when it comes to changing your financial situation for the better.

It is now time to be really conscious of what you are spending your money on, including your wants versus your needs. If you don’t really need a particular item, should you be buying it?

If it seems as though you are constantly going backwards and you can’t cut back your expenses any further than you already have, then you may need to identify any other ways you can make more money.

You could do this by taking up a second job, starting your own online business, or even having a garage sale or selling some unwanted items on an auction site such as eBay. The ways in which you can bring in more money are limited only by your imagination.

Ok, so you’ve established what you can do to help ease your financial situation, and now it is really important to work out what got you into this situation in the first place. If you don’t want to find yourself in the same situation again, then you want to avoid the actions or situations that got you there.

But no matter how you got into your current financial situation, it will be comforting to know that once you have committed to doing what it takes to alter your financial situation, then you will begin to see improvements once you begin to take action.

Taking control of your finances and beating the recession is most definitely within your reach, and once you have the right tools and strategies to use and follow, your bank balance will begin to show positive changes.

For more information, you can click on beat the recession to continue your financial growth and have access to more great tools and ideas!

Good luck and remember:  Now is the perfect time to take control of YOUR money!

Nicole Gruendl
Life and Success Coach
www.NicoleGruendl.com

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6 Ways To Survive Being Laid Off

6 Ways To Survive Being Laid Off

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With the economy the way it is, many companies are downsizing. It’s not a news flash that we are in an economic crisis. If you suspect your job is in jeopardy, here are six tips to help you thrive in the event of a layoff. But even if a layoff is not in your future, though you many not know it, take the time to follow these simple steps to enhance your life!

1. Collect what is owed to you. File any outstanding expense reports, and collect any remaining vacation or overtime pay that’s owed to you. It’s important that you tie up any financial loose ends before your departure. Remember, you worked for these benefits and are therefore rightfully entitled to collect them.

2. Don’t take it personally. Unlike getting fired, a layoff is usually not related directly to poor performance but rather to lack of business, or even budget cuts. You may be quite proficient and an asset, but if you are the company’s most recent hire, or if your department is being cut out altogether, your position may be at risk. Keep in mind that you’re being laid off because your employer is having trouble in a tough economy, and not because you aren’t a great at what you do. 

3. Make job searching your full-time job. Create a project and set goals for yourself that’s built completely around job hunting. Schedule time for updating and sending out your resume, tailoring cover letters, scheduling information interviews, networking, and attending events hosted by trade organizations. This will help you to maintain the structure you need to propel you forward in finding a job and will give you a sense of accomplishment at the end of each day. 

4. Manage your finances wisely. Be frugal and plan for the worst case scenario. Try to stretch out your severance pay (if you received any) or your savings for as long as possible. Save money by cutting out nice-to-have but unnecessary expenses such as cable TV and dining out. And even if money is very tight, resist using your credit cards for purchases. If you have outstanding credit card debts, make it a priority to pay off as much of the monthly balance as possible by the due date. 

Warning! Don’t tap into your retirement funds unless you absolutely have to. Dipping into your RRSP savings (money which you’ve worked hard to save) can have serious financial consequences that include paying taxes and penalties of up to one-half of any withdrawal you make.

5. Start your own business. What do Wikipedia, Microsoft and MTV Networks all have in common? All three of these businesses were started during an economic slump. Perhaps you have an idea that you’ve been waiting to turn into a business. If you have the financing, tenacity and passion to start your own business, this may be the ideal time to do it. Many successful entrepreneurs attest to the fact that starting a business during a recession forces them to focus more and take a harder look at whether or not their ideas are feasible. If your business turns out to be profitable during a recession, once the economy bounces back you’re likely to be even more successful. Remember to take the opportunity to thrive and move forward when others are hiding under their shell.

6. Stay positive. In addition to putting your energy towards returning to gainful employment, it’s essential that you also make time to do the things that interest you and alleviate stress. Exercising, working on home projects and volunteering are all things that you can do to remain upbeat. Keep a healthy and positive attitude and you’ll be back in business in no time! Think about all the things you can get done that you couldn’t get done before…because you were working so much. Take this time to smell the roses, regroup, breathe and enjoy your family.

Time to move onward and upward and not wallow in your self-pity for this will keep you down and non productive! This too shall pass.

Nicole Gruendl
Life and Success Coach
Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com

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Bullying and Your Personal Power

Bullying and Your Personal Power

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Being a coach, I have become more aware of people who forgo their personal power to avoid confrontation, search for peace, and have acceptance.

These situations come at a great expense to your personal being. You become quiet, lose your self esteem, become confused, often depressed and find that you not longer know who you are.
I have been involved in such situations and have now found my personal power and believe and trust my own personal judgment. My “gut” feeling.
Starting out as a coach in support for single parents and stay at home moms, I often saw such circumstances arise. Many had no self esteem, had no drive left, they were so committed to their family that they lost themselves. And then were put in a situation where they are told that it’s their JOB and that they have not amounted to anything because they don’t have a real job outside the home. All they do is take care of the kids. This is part of my own story.

That exchange of words was quite unsettling for me. I thought of myself as a powerful, intelligent and superb mother and wife. Instead of me standing in my power, I let myself be demeaned over and over again. I wanted stability, I didn’t want any sort of confrontation. I just wanted it all to go away. What happens with this type of scenario is that it strengthens the “bully” and sends the person on the receiving end into more of a downward spiral. This encounter led me to dive deeper into the curious cave of personal power and trust.

Bullying comes is presented in many different ways in life. Amazingly enough, children who bully throughout their younger years feel the need to continue throughout their adulthood. This is the reflection upon many abusive marriages and relationships. The need for control and self preservation is so high they do not care who it affects in their lives. Sadly, this has become such an issue in our society that we have Special days to Stop the abuse.

With reflection from those past moments, I wanted to work and empower women, single, married, stay at home or out in the work force. For may of us carry these burdens from one environment to the next. Owning your power is an integral part of personal happiness, fulfilling connections and achieving your potential. You give your power away when you make someone outside of you more important than what you hold inside of you.
Noticing this not only in your home environment but also in the work place is essential for the staff, the coworkers and the facility in general.
Working in the health care industry, the people that these negatives surroundings affects the most are the patients. What I saw was a conflict with the employees that was not at all what one would expect. They are all here to tend to their patients with love and caring and yet, they have difficulty even talking to their co-workers?
So keeping with your personal power, your essence, you become stronger, more confident and your self esteem will sky rocket. This is a process and it’s a transition that will begin when you say “ I LOVE MYSELF”, and believe it.

These are ways how you give your personal power away :

    –Searching for validation by over powering
    –Wanting approval for every action
    –Losing faith in yourself Forget that you know what you’re doing, and you are good at it.
    –Any boundaries are lost
    –Any self doubt
    –Be intimidated by loud, obnoxious people
    –Be a victim of emotional assaults
    –Go against your personal beliefs
    –Attempting to please everyone around you

    But you can keep your personal power when you:

–Believe in yourself and trust your inner feelings.
–Ask for what you need and want.
–Believe the fact that you have earned the respect from others
–Be non judgmental. Do onto others as you would like done to you
–Spend time with like minded people
–Never stop being the loving and caring person you know yourself to be
–Learn to say “No” and mean it, no matter what the outcome

Owning your power means speaking your truth, honoring your sensitivity, and believing in yourself. Your life experience, education, personal relationships, and curiosity make you wise.  Always believe in yourself and if need be, tell the bullies to shove off!

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” Buddha

Nicole Gruendl
Life Success Coach
E: Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com
W: www.NicoleGruendl.com

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8 Ways to Change Your Negative Ways of Thinking

8 Ways to Change Your Negative Ways of Thinking

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Sometimes life just happens. Everyone around you is saying when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Just forget it all happened. Yeah right. Pretty hard to do when things are going sideways. However, you can change your state of mind rather than dwelling on the negative aspects of it all. This is far from the rah rah articles that you read all the time, the “just think this way and your life will flourish.” This is REAL! It’s about changing your whole thought process.

Anything familiar in here?

1.‘My life sucks’ Way of Thinking – You are not happy with anything in your life. Everyone and everything that you associate with is bad. All the people have an agenda and it’s not positive. All is wrong in the world

2.‘Jumping to the wrong conclusions’ Way of Thinking– You jump ahead and making decisions without any substantial evidence. This is such a negative and destructive pattern that can effect you in all aspects of your life. Reality is so clouded that you create your own visions of events without thinking sensibly. You tend to make a lot of conclusions without any evidence to back up your conclusions.

3.‘Poor me syndrome’ Way of Thinking – Nothing good and worth while will ever happen to you. You’re not worthy. This is such a self destructive thought process and is stemming from a serious lack of self esteem.

4.‘Everyones’ negative thoughts ’ Way of Thinking – You think everyone around you is thinking negative thoughts about you and how you are. This leads to your own self depleting thought process and everything around you is bad.

5.‘I should have, could have but didn’t’ – Way of Thinking – You know exactly what it takes to succeed and move forward to change your life. You have all the tools and are quite capable. The only thing you are missing is the action to move things in the right direction. Stuck in the IF ONLY syndrome.

6.‘Losing control of your Emotions’ Way of Thinking – Everything you are thinking and doing is based on your emotions and the inability to focus on what is real. This links to your lack of self esteem and you not being worthy of success.

7.‘It’s all my fault’ Way of Thinking – You blame yourself for everything bad that is happening around you and your friends and family. You are the cause for every negative event that transpired in your life. Everything is your fault.

8.‘Nobody else is as capable as I am’ Way of Thinking – Nobody can do anything as you. You feel that everyone around you is incompetent and that you just do everything yourself so you don’t need to rely on anybody else.

I just revealed to you some of the most common ways of thinking that we all go through in our lives. I was very fond of the drama and the emotions way of thinking. In fact, I was a master of it. Then the poor me would kick in and we would all have a big party together! Wow what a productive and fun life that was! But I made a decision to change all that. I chose to become a coach and that action alone began my life changing process. Don’t get me wrong, I’m far from perfect but I am real and I am human. I am learning and growing all the time. I made the decision to make those changes and change my “state” once and for all. I love my life and I want you to be have the ability to change that thought process as well, once and for all.
This is how I did it!

Admitting there is a need for change – It’s called denial! I don’t have a problem, I don’t need to change. If you like the way you are and do not feel the need to change, then don’t. If you want this change then you have to see how you perceive your life. We are all different and everyone’s life and circumstances are different. This all comes down to how we think in our daily life. If you think that things are outstanding then they will be outstanding and you will manifest things as such.

How you use these destructive ways of thinking – We make the decision to think positively from a powerful place. Using different thought processes and patterns depending on the circumstances and events that occur. Recognizing when you use our negative thinking process supports you in changing the thought patterns and changing your state.

Changing your “state” – Your state is where you are in your thought process, your state of mind. How to change it is an exercise, that with practice will come you to you naturally. You can choose to do it slowly or use this thought process to speed up the results.

Get sad…and as soon as you get sad, get sadder, and sadder and then even more sad…almost weeping. The think of something that instantly makes you feel happy. Now repeat this process with quicker changes…make sense? Practice this exercise on an ongoing basis and when you start to think of anything that is less than happy, you know how to instantly change your state.

It’s all in the action and the desire to change, nothing else. If there is the want to then there is a way to. Always is!
The new Ways of Thinking
Now that you have been able to recognize some of the destructive thinking patterns that you have acquired throughout your life, you also have the a few ideas on how to change those patterns.
It’s a choice…you either want to be happy and live a fulfilling and joyful life or you don’t. It really is that simple.
In a short period of time you will notice on how you react to events and people in your life, and how they react to you.

Remember, do onto others….

You will also attract like minded people. Do this little test and see how it works out for you.
Smile at several different people throughout your day, say good morning or just say HI and see what reaction you get. Then do the opposite, be grumpy and ignorant and see what happens. Bet you like the first reactions more.

Just don’t think about wanting to be happy, make a powerful decision to change today.

Nicole Gruendl
Life Success Coach
E: Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com
W: www.NicoleGruendl.com

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Some of the Most Common Single Parent Struggles

Some of the Most Common Single Parent Struggles

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While most of us know how difficult and trying it can be as parents; think of working through all of our stuff without someone, partner, to support us through all of it. Single parenting just tends to be a little more trying and difficult than being part of a 2 parent family. Not only do you have to play the roles of both parents, but you’re financially responsible for a set of bills that are usually paid by two incomes.

Here are some of the most common single parent struggles with tips and strategies on how to overcome them.

Illness: When illness strikes in the single parent household, this time can be very trying. Sometimes even more so if it’s the parent who is ill. As a single parent, there is nobody to fall back on so you are able to recuperate. The need to be available to your child or children at all times is ever so present, depending on the age of the family members. A parent struggling with poor health will still feel the need to get on with household matters depending on the age of the children. This down time will also affect the financial income for some time may be taken off.
When the children are sick, it may require the parent to take time off work to care for them, bringing further financial hardship. There is never any reprieve from a sick child and their need to be comforted.

Money challenges: Going from a double income to little or no income can become the most overwhelming issue to overcome. Being responsible for your own monthly payments becomes a big deal indeed. If you find yourself in a dilemma where there never seems to be sufficient funds to make your payments, think of simplifying or even downsizing. Rid yourself of any extra expenses that you may have incurred while you were bringing in two incomes and make life as simple and easy as possible.
Some ideas on how to be more frugal:
Clip coupons
Shop the sales at your local grocery store
Review all of your bills and consolidate services if possible
Shopping Goodwill stores for your household needs
Buy less expensive computers for children

Selecting Safe and Affordable Child Care: Many single parents are at the mercy of the childcare available in their area. We all want the best in childcare and look for but that for our children. Sometimes the best comes with a with a condition; a higher cost. Private daycares are available along with the different childcare centers. Shop and compare charges and services that they have to offer. Ask each one for references and check to see if there are any financial assistance opportunities available like reduced price lunches.

Discussing Life Matters and Gender Issues: Talking to your child about the facts of life may be a little uncomfortable. Especially when our children are the opposite sex and they have a tendency to feel uncomfortable about this life’s subject. A mom may have a hard time teaching her sons about the things a dad would normally cover and a single father may have difficulties talking about female issues with his daughters. If there is an uncomfortable situation that presents itself in this manner, you should enlist the help of a favorite aunt or uncle or a close family friend to act as a “surrogate parent” for your child. It may be easier for your child to open up to this other significant adult and facilitate this whole process and lessen the pressure and tension that may arise.

The World’s Pressure on You: When there’s only one parent in the household, all of the family responsibilities lay on that person’s shoulders. House Chores, cooking, cleaning, yard word, financial concerns and monitoring, being a chauffeur, and every day tasks of being a parent this makes it that there is not much time for you. It’s easy to see that every single parent needs a break every so often. Make sure you take a break to revive yourself and re-energize. Look for a local teenager who could use some extra money, even if it’s just for a few hours. Maybe even drop them off at a family member for a few hours, giving you the option to do what you want not what you need to do.

The Feeling of Being Alone and Lost: Being a single parent have a difficult time relating to people who do not have children and find themselves isolated at one time or another. They find it difficult to associate with singles who cannot comprehend the responsibility that being a single parent brings. If you find yourself feeling a bit lonely and you want to communicate with people who can relate to what you’re going through, look into joining a nearby support group for single parents. Besides just chatting with other adults and exchanging thoughts and ideas, you may meet a new friend and enlarge your social circle.
After the separation occurs, the parents much be aware that there are emotional turmoils that are transpiring within our children. Often these children often blame themselves for the parent leaving. As they are children, they cannot process the situation without emotion.

Schooling: Taking care of the children’s needs at school is another challenge for the single parent, having to be available for school visits, being home in time after school and dealing with any concerns arising for their children during school hours.

Dating and the Introduction: The timing for introduction will vary for each individual. It’s a situation where you need to be aware of the surrounding and how many people you are dating. Introducing your children to each individual that you have dinner with may not be the most appropriate. While it’s never good to hide a growing relationship from your child, watch that they don’t become emotionally involved with someone you’re dating unless you really think the relationship is going somewhere. This may be an appropriate time to plan an outing and see how they “get along” and possibly move the relationship to a deeper level. Remember, your children will be sensitive to anyone who “tries to take their parent away” from them. There will be some explanation as these relationships progress and move forward. Be aware of the feelings and emotions that become involved as time progresses. Sometimes it happens, but try to minimize the revolving door.

If a child has one stable adult in their lives , they will be thrive. It is your responsibility to be THAT person.

Nicole Gruendl
Life and Success Coach
Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com

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Moms and Life Coaching

As a Single Mom and taking on a new Career as a Life Coach I never knew how difficult it could be to find out my true self or what it even was! I forgot how much I was wrapped up in my child’s life and just life in general, just making ends meet. So much so that I really didn’t see the real struggle it takes to find out that I was sometimes overwhelmed and forgot who I really was.
So much of our lives are wrapped into our family and the role we have as mother, wife, homemaker, chef, driver, it seems that there is never enough time in a day to get things done. That and let alone thinking about ourselves and our well being. Life is trying and until you have a clearly designated time for everything, you will never achieve full success in any area

I do not feel that I speak for just myself or coming from a position as a life coach, I believe I speak for many women out there who are in similar or have been in similar positions as this.
It takes so much for us, as women, to express and say “hey I can’t do this all on my own”. Yes, we are sometimes portrayed as been invincible and the best caretakers. “Mommy knows best.” But as we teach our children and families to balance their lives, who is there supporting us on our own path?
Have you ever found yourself just laying in bed thinking, “there has to be something better out there for me.”

Life Coaching has supported me in reprogramming my train of thought. Learning to believe in myself and that when you listen to your heart and “your gut” you know that your happiness is at your finger tips. With these simple tools, the balance and structure in your and your family life will come with more ease, less stress and demand. This all makes it for a happier and better place. Life is all about Choices and it’s up to you to make the one that works for you and your family. Finding the light in your life, wherever that may come from, is essential for your personal growth. Finding the right coach to support you in this search is imperative.

The first step in working with my clients is finding their Essence, the words that best describe them from their heart and soul; their being. It’s all about truly believing in the process and knowing what your life purpose it. Trusting you!
Think of this. Coaching is the gateway to your greatness and of endless possibility. What does possibility look like for you? Can you imagine creating a list of goals and actually have them flourish? What have you given yourself the right to dream? Are you where you imagined you’d be this time, this year? What are your greatest dreams?
What IS Holding YOU Back?
Is there a lack of physical or mental Energy?
What is your Life purpose?
Your inability to set clear Goals?
Do you have the ability to make solid Plans?
Is it prioritizing?
Your ability to get and stay Organized?
Is it your Attitude?
OR SIMPLY: Are you afraid of your greatness?
Step into your power, follow your heart and your desires and dreams will follow! Create the life that you want, create what is best for you mom, the foundation of the family life.

This give a whole new meaning to the quote “if Mom isn’t happy, nobody is happy.”

Believe in yourself! Put your trust in YOU and trust in your coach!

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What is Life Coaching and how does it benefit YOU?

What is Life Coaching and how does it benefit YOU?

blk-question-mark-smallLife Coaching is an effective way of establishing where you are in your life, where you are going, and how you will get there. By focusing on the Present and Future it supports you in recreating your self confidence, enjoying your work and creating time for yourself and your family.
Why would you need to pay someone to support you through this? Ask yourself this question:  “If I continue doing things as I have been, will I create and achieve my goals? Will I have that fulfilling life that I’ve always wanted?”

Life coaching is not about changing you but becoming who you REALLY are. Being successful is not just about having a great career, or a wonderful family.  It means that you adapt your world to a world that suits you. The more you know about who you are, the easier it will be to achieve what you want and to find what fulfills you.

Clients of Life Coaches experience positive change by revealing what is hidden. Imagine what it would be like to feel more in control, organized, clear about your choices, and that life is filled with unlimited possibilities. You can have all that and more!
The result is a more fulfilling career, more satisfying relationships, more spirituality, and the motivation to reach oneÂ’s greatest potential. If you know that somethingÂ’s holding you back from achieving this in your life, you can find a way to break through those barriers and fears.
Once youÂ’ve made the decision that you want to work with a coach, itÂ’s a good idea to shop around for the right coach. Interview several coaches before making your selection. Ask about their training, background, experience, and philosophy. Then make a commitment to yourself to live a more fulfilled and peaceful life.

The purpose of a Life Coach is essentially to help you:

-Make changes for the better
-Set appropriate goals and achieve them
-Develop your full potential
-Define your idea of a more fulfilling life
-Change negative habits and beliefs
-Voice what you really want – even if you donÂ’t know yet
-Find a new career or direction, if appropriate
-Clarify boundaries at work and at home
-Know yourself better – and perhaps like yourself better!
-Manifest some mushy dreams as well as serious ambitions
-Really live life to the full with passion and conviction

With this powerful client/coach alliance, clients find themselves:

– Doing more than they would on their own
– Taking themselves more seriously
– Creating momentum and consistency
– Taking more effective and focused actions
– Becoming more balanced and fulfilled
– Discovery and experience of life and
– Allowing love and creativity
– Noticing what is so and being with it
– Effortless, flow and peace
-New relationship to chaos, problems,
– Mature, adult relationship with self and others
– Willing to take risks and be vulnerable
– Deepening of intimacy and closeness in relationships
-Purpose is clear and actions are now
– Making dreams come true
-Getting you out of your own way

Do you need life coaching?

-Do you feel overwhelmed?
-Are you stuck in a life rut?
-Are you neglecting yourself, your family, and/or your work?
-Do you feel the stress of too many conflicting forces?
-Do you just react to life versus creating the life you want?

Are you READY:

-I am ready to create more balance in my life.
-I am ready to improve my personal or business relationships.
-I am ready to make real and positive changes in my life.
-I am ready to find and live my life’s purpose.
-I am ready and willing to overcome self-limiting beliefs and behavior.
-I am ready to create plans and take action to achieve my goals.
-I am ready to achieve a sense of fulfillment at work and in my life.
-I am ready for more fun and enjoyment in my life.
-I’d like to work less and make more money.
-I can benefit from someone who will help me to stay on track

So if this sounds like you, please take the initiative in hiring a coach and start creating the life that you really want to live!

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What Every Parent Should Have Access To

Have at least one trusted friend or family member you can call on day or night
These friends or family can also be life savers when you are sick or when there is an emergency. A family member or friend who understands and is there unconditionally and who will be there in your time of need

Be prepared with items in your bag/purse
Gum, granola bars/trail mix, wet-wipes, band-aids, address book, kids book to read, water bottle, cell phone or quarters and your camera. Anything that you can use in time of crisis or if you are delayed in an appointment or have a small emergency

Have a good, reliable babysitter or daycare
Having access to such a person is mandatory for work and for times when you just “need a break”. Trust plays a major role in this area for it’s difficult to find someone who is outside the family environment that you can trust. Take your time and be very choosy when selecting a babysitter

A friend who understands you
Someone who understands who you are and how simple things are going out for coffee and what having grown up conversation means to you. Someone who is willing just to be there and listen and BE with you

Make lists for when you shop
It simplifies things and keeps you organized. It also limits the trips that you have to take to the store when you “forgot” something

Keep an emergency $20 in your wallet
And leave it there. You never know when an emergency will come up that you need that extra couple of dollars

A best friend
Someone who has no strings attached and who is there for the “heavy work”or the work you just need help with
Someone who is there to reflect your thoughts and and fears about life who can give you opinions and advice from a different perspective

A safe and reliable Doctor
A doctor who you can trust and confide in. Someone who understands and can relate to your situation

Save money
Parents often struggle living paycheck to paycheck. But even a limited amount, as low as $10 would be beneficial to your future

Enjoy it
Appreciate every minute of it. Being a parent is not easy.
Treasure this job and treat each day as a gift. A gift that you are a part of your children’s lives

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Goal Setting

Goal Setting

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I was getting ready to write my first speech for Toastmasters, which was very scary for me because I have never done public speaking before.
Thinking about what I wanted to write and used the Coaching concept of Goal setting.  As I sit down to write the article, well AFTER flipping through the mail, I come across the Toastmasters Magazine.  Right on the front page was the article “The value of setting goals.” Perfect!

Did you know the majority of people don’t have life goals, and if they do, they don’t write them down or follow through with them? Life gets in the way and they just push them aside.  Living their life as it’s dealt to them.  Life happens when you’re busy making plans. Right here, it says it all…Goals won’t help, I have no energy!  I can’t do anything!
That’s where I was 2 years ago when I decided being a 9 – 5er was not working for me.  A single mom, paying a mortgage and having a life was difficult on a limited budget.  But what choice did I have?

After a couple of different jobs, and much soul searching, I decided if I wanted to succeed and have the freedom I was seeking; I had to be willing to take risks. Around the same time a friend contacted me about Life Coaching and invited me to one of the sessions. It’s this invitation that made me create a list of goals for myself, write them down, and pursue my career as a life coach!

Having a love for people has directed me to the Coaching Industry.  Some often find themselves with no focus, no goals, unhappy with their career… they are just STUCK!  My ability to assist them in finding their true being will lead them to fulfilling their goals and ultimately their dreams!!!!  To expand on the client/coach relationship, I will be offering seminars, CD’s and DVD’s to further assist my clients.  Providing them with such media and information will in turn be the foundation needed for myself and my family to pursue my own goals and fulfill my dreams!

With that said, my other goals are rather modest. A log home overlooking the lake, a wake board boat with sky skies, wake boards and other water toys to share with friends and family! Can you see if now? Basking in the sun with a nice cold beverage  ahhh…Oh sorry.  Lost myself for a moment!  Since my son and I are avid boaters, these items are a must in our lives!  We sky ski and wake board throughout the year.  To expand our knowledge and show our love for the sports, we would be attending to the several water sport tournaments.  Having a house on a lake is very special to me.  The serenity from the water is one that I can share while working with my clients.  The thing about Life Coaching is that people FEEL you and know how you are being with them even though they can’t see you.  There is nothing more calming than listening to the water splashing on the shore.  So you see, it’s not just a place to live, it’s a place to share with everyone that is a part of my life, family, friends and clients alike.

Next one is travel related. I have never explored outside of North America and to expand on that is a life long dream!  First stop, France. Visiting the Bordeaux regions, and doing the fancy pants wine tasting at the Moet ET Chandon vineyards!  The vast fields of laden grape vines, the Chateaux where the walls, if they could talk, would tell you centuries of tales!  And the main event, the wine tasting! I watch in anticipation as the sommelier pours each of us a glass of wine!  The Legs of the wine streaming down the sides of the glass, the bouquet that tickles your nasal passage and oh the flavor that brings your taste buds alive as you swish the around in your mouth!  What a decadent experience.  Now add a little cheese and chocolate; Oh my…isn’t life grand?

Onto the next place we go!  Tokyo JAPAN! Konichiwa   My son’s love for martial arts, Japanese culture and Darn good sushi, has made this a must place to visit!  Walking along the streets of Tokyo amidst the thousands of people would be an experience in itself.  Coming across a little DoJo, looking like a little hole in the wall, is nothing but that inside.  The weaponry, the kicking bags, the bamboo walls, Korey is awe struck! The Dojo master enters and Korey introduces himself and explains, in Japanese, why we are there.  They invite us to a training session which has produced a smile on his face that will linger for quite some time! I myself think I’m going to die!!!  The aches and pains…did I sign up for this?
Lunch time!  Having worked up a sweat we wanted sushi.  As we sat we were greeted with quite the, lets say, interesting experiences.  Have to tell you, I am a rather Outgoing person with the “food that I don’t know” I decided to stick with the basics, you know California rolls, tuna Salmon.  Stuffed beyond our beliefs, we decide to walk it off through some of the gardens.  The array of colors and rocks in these areas are amazing.  Again, every garden has a story.  What a great read they would be!!!

African safari time! My friend, Randy shared his adventures and treks of when he backpacked through Africa.  His experiences and stories have me captivated! He had the opportunity to play with baby cheetahs, to see the hyenas from the top of the vehicles at night roaming through his camp or simple listening to the lions roar. His story telling brings you right there and places you amidst the lions! Then to see the Egyptian pyramids up close in all of their majesty!  Standing at the base of the sphinx
People speak of their adventures but to get the true gist of it all, you must just go out and do it! But really this is all about with the people and cultures; getting to know who they really are and what the world is really all about. The idea with these travel adventures is not about the scenery or the places  but the ability to share this experience with my loved ones!

Now these dreams and goals may seem a little unrealistic to some.  But why should they?  Are not all dreams obtainable if we just set it in our minds and our hearts?  Maybe life does get in the way, but only if we let it.  So why not dream big, why not take the chance?  Why not set these goals?
You don’t have to go to Africa, you can just GO!
I believe goals are important in life.  They give you something to focus on and work towards   Here is a takeaway from the Toastmasters Magazine that evening that will assist you or your friends in fulfilling your goals :  First:
1-    Write them down
2-    Be clear and Specific
3-    Make them measurable
4-    Set a time limit…A what by when
5-    Break projects down into small, more manageable units
6-    Establish Stepping stone goals
7-    Post goals around the house

With that mitt full of information go out and create your goals!  Tell everyone about what you have heard!  If they need that kick in the pants, have them call me and I’d be glad to assist them in their pursuit of happiness!!!!

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Powerful Ways to Show Love to Your Children

Powerful Ways to Show Love to Your Children

Our children are most important to us . However, our love is the biggest gift we could ever give to our children. Here are some ways to show love that will support them in creating a more fulfilling and loving life!

  1. Spend Time with Your Children –Our Time is the most precious gift we can give to our children. By taking time out of our busy schedules to see what they are involved in is a precious gift.
  2. Be a Strong Role Model — Teach practical values to your children by modeling those values.  Use words like “I’m sorry,” “please,” and “thank you.”
  3. Listen to Your Children –  Children need to communicate their pride of accomplishment as well as their needs. If you listen to your children deeply, they will grow up listening deeply to you.
  4. Provide Loving Discipline — Use non-violent forms of discipline. Children need guidelines and safe boundaries without being constrained unnecessarily.
  5. Always be Encouraging — Encouraging words are powerful emotional deposits of confidence and self-esteem. Loving them and praising their accomplishments are all part of this process.
  6. Be emotionally available for your children  –  When your child is angry, argumentative or in a bad mood, give him a hug, cuddle, pat, secret sign or other gesture of affection he favors and talk with him about his feelings.
  7. Share Your Experiences with Your Children – We all have valuable, life learning stories to share with our children.  Sharing these stories is a loving way to guide your children.
  8. Provide unconditional Love and Support — Love is an unconditional gift from the heart;  This message creates a sturdy bond of trust and your children will grow to feel safe in coming to you with any problem they face.
  9. Own a Pet — Owning a pet can make children, especially those with chronic illnesses and disabilities, feel better by stimulating physical activity, enhancing their overall attitude, and offering constant companionship.
  10. Make family Time — Mark family game nights on your calendar so the entire family can be together. This encourages a strong bond that will then create a more loving, encouraging and forgiving family.
  11. Involve your children in cooking activities — One of the best ways to familiarize your child with good food choices is to encourage him to cook with you.
  12. Provide the Necessary Tools for their Personal Growth – Provide them with  as much as possible by encouraging them and providing the equipment and instruction needed in this growth, whether it be educational, spiritual or sports oriented.
  13. LOVE is the one word that can sum up If you could sum up , all of our children’s needs, hopes, and expectations in one word, that word would be LOVE . We share love in every aspect of their lives and by doing so, this creates a guiding influence for our children  for many generations.
  14. And last but not least…NEVER ever stop telling your children that you LOVE them.

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