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8 Tips for Mental Health & Fitness

8 Tips for Mental Health & Fitness

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1. Build Confidence

Identify your abilities and weaknesses together, accept them improve on them and never lose sight of your goals, you can succeed.

2. Eat right, Keep fit

A balanced diet, exercise and rest can help you to reduce stress and enjoy life.

3. Make Time for Family and Friends

These relationships need to be nurtured; if taken for granted they will not be there to share life’s joys and sorrows.

4. Give and Accept Support

Friends and family relationships thrive when they are “put to the test”.

5. Create a Meaningful Budget

Financial problems cause stress. Over-spending on our “wants” instead of our “needs” is often the culprit.

6. Manage Stress

We all have stress ors in our lives but learning how to deal with them when they threaten to overwhelm us will maintain our mental health.

7. Find Strength in Numbers

Sharing a problem with others who have had similar experiences may help you find a solution and will make you feel less isolated.

8. Identify and Deal with Moods

We all need to find safe and constructive ways to express our feelings of anger, sadness, joy and fear. Exercise is the best release, no one gets hurt and you will feel better after words.

Chris Sine
Fitness Trainer
E: Chris@NoBSFitnessforLife.com
W: www.NoBSFitnessforLife.com

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Attitude of Gratitude

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February 26, 2009

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Attitude of Gratitude

earlI had the pleasure of meeting this fine gentleman one morning.
I asked him about his resources and he pleasantly stated that it would be great if I would post his article on my site.

So here it is…

The Attitude Of Gratitude
By: Earl Erickson

The New Year brings with it a host of Christmas
and New Year celebration problems. Weight is

gained from all the good food you eat, economic
stress from over spending and the lack of daily

exercise routine. New Year’s resolutions are usually forgotten by mid-year. It is time to sit yourself down and take inventory of where you are in
life’s journey.

Focus on all the positive aspects of your life.
Dreams of the future should not diminish appreciation for the present. Do you have a place to
live, transportation, a job, food and people that
care about you? If you acknowledge each item, then you are wealthy with
blessings earned. Every morning recharge your appreciation with a positive
attitude and thoughts. Put a smile on your face and greet people you meet by
saying, “have a grateful day!”

Maintain an “attitude of gratitude” daily. Overweight, worry, heavy heart,
overspending and exercise problems are quickly overcome by having a positive attitude. If there is a will, there is a way to overcome things in a beneficial manner. Negative thoughts, fears, denial, jealousy, disrespect and lack of
personal integrity bring despair. This leads to emotional and physical health
problems.

In communication it isn’t what you say, but how you say it that is most meaningful. The wrong words spoken to others may hurt their feelings and bring
resentment to you. Think about what you are going to say before you say it.

Cultivate an “attitude of gratitude” in your life. Keep things in perspective.
Consider all the people that have overcome difficulties far greater than yours.
Try not to be consumed by your problems, and know there is always a solution. Be open minded and consult with people of experience. Your mind will

devise a resolution to your circumstances if you take the time to concentrate.

It is always the “darkest before the dawn” of each day.

Make every day a day of Thanksgiving for what you have. Start each day with
time for yourself in meditation and prayers. You will be amazed at how much
better your life will become. This is called an “Inside workout for mental fitness”

** Try not: to become a person of success, but a person of value.**

– Albert Einstein

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Views on Aging by George Carlin

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February 11, 2009

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This article went through many emails and I wanted to share some fun and laughter with everyone! Enjoy!

Do you realize that the only time in our lives when we like to get old is when we’re kids? If you’re less than 10 years old, you’re so excited about aging that you think in fractions.

‘How old are you?’ ‘I’m four and a half!’ You’re never thirty-six and a half. You’re four and a half, going on five! That’s the key

You get into your teens, now they can’t hold you back. You jump to the next number, or even a few ahead.

‘How old are you?’ ‘I’m gonna be 16!’ You could be 13, but hey, you’re gonna be 16! And then the greatest day of your life . . You become 21. Even the words sound like a ceremony .YOU BECOME 21 YESSSS!!!

But then you turn 30. Oooohh, what happened there? Makes you sound like bad milk! He TURNED; we had to throw him out. There’s no fun now, you’re Just a sour-dumpling. What’s wrong? What’s changed?

You BECOME 21, you TURN 30, then you’re PUSHING 40. Whoa! Put on the brakes, it’s all slipping away. Before you know it, you  REACH 50 and your dreams are gone.

But wait!!! You MAKE it to 60. You didn’t think you would!

So you BECOME 21, TURN 30,PUSH 40, REACH 50 and MAKE it to 60.

You’ve built up so much speed that you HIT 70! After that it’s a day-by-day thing; you HIT Wednesday!

You get into your 80’s and every day is a complete cycle; you HIT lunch; you TURN 4:30 ; you REACH bedtime. And it doesn’t end there. Into the 90s, you start going backwards; ‘I Was JUST 92.’

Then a strange thing happens. If you make it over 100, you become a little kid again. ‘I’m 100 and a half!’
May you all make it to a healthy 100 and a half!!

HOW TO STAY YOUNG
1. Throw out nonessential numbers. This includes age, weight and height. Let the doctors worry about them. That is why you pay ‘them.’
2. Keep only cheerful friends. The grouches pull you down.
3. Keep learning. Learn more about the computer, crafts, gardening, whatever. Never let the brain idle. ‘An idle mind is the devil’s workshop’ And the devil’s name is Alzheimer’s.
4. Enjoy the simple things.
5. Laugh often, long and loud. Laugh until you gasp for breath.
6. The tears happen. Endure, grieve, and move on. The only person, who is with us our entire life, is ourselves. Be ALIVE while you are alive.
7. Surround yourself with what you love , whether it’s family, pets, keepsakes, music, plants, hobbies, whatever. Your home is your refuge.
8. Cherish your health: If it is good, preserve it. If it is unstable, improve it. If it is beyond what you can improve, get help.
9. Don’t take guilt trips. Take a trip to the mall, even to the next county; to a foreign country but NOT to where the guilt is.
10. Tell the people you love that you love them, at every opportunity.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER :

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take,but by the moments that take our breath away.

Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely, in a well-preserved body, but, rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting ‘holy cow…What a ride!’

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8 Ways to Change Your Negative Ways of Thinking

8 Ways to Change Your Negative Ways of Thinking

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Sometimes life just happens. Everyone around you is saying when the going gets tough, the tough get going. Just forget it all happened. Yeah right. Pretty hard to do when things are going sideways. However, you can change your state of mind rather than dwelling on the negative aspects of it all. This is far from the rah rah articles that you read all the time, the “just think this way and your life will flourish.” This is REAL! It’s about changing your whole thought process.

Anything familiar in here?

1.‘My life sucks’ Way of Thinking – You are not happy with anything in your life. Everyone and everything that you associate with is bad. All the people have an agenda and it’s not positive. All is wrong in the world

2.‘Jumping to the wrong conclusions’ Way of Thinking– You jump ahead and making decisions without any substantial evidence. This is such a negative and destructive pattern that can effect you in all aspects of your life. Reality is so clouded that you create your own visions of events without thinking sensibly. You tend to make a lot of conclusions without any evidence to back up your conclusions.

3.‘Poor me syndrome’ Way of Thinking – Nothing good and worth while will ever happen to you. You’re not worthy. This is such a self destructive thought process and is stemming from a serious lack of self esteem.

4.‘Everyones’ negative thoughts ’ Way of Thinking – You think everyone around you is thinking negative thoughts about you and how you are. This leads to your own self depleting thought process and everything around you is bad.

5.‘I should have, could have but didn’t’ – Way of Thinking – You know exactly what it takes to succeed and move forward to change your life. You have all the tools and are quite capable. The only thing you are missing is the action to move things in the right direction. Stuck in the IF ONLY syndrome.

6.‘Losing control of your Emotions’ Way of Thinking – Everything you are thinking and doing is based on your emotions and the inability to focus on what is real. This links to your lack of self esteem and you not being worthy of success.

7.‘It’s all my fault’ Way of Thinking – You blame yourself for everything bad that is happening around you and your friends and family. You are the cause for every negative event that transpired in your life. Everything is your fault.

8.‘Nobody else is as capable as I am’ Way of Thinking – Nobody can do anything as you. You feel that everyone around you is incompetent and that you just do everything yourself so you don’t need to rely on anybody else.

I just revealed to you some of the most common ways of thinking that we all go through in our lives. I was very fond of the drama and the emotions way of thinking. In fact, I was a master of it. Then the poor me would kick in and we would all have a big party together! Wow what a productive and fun life that was! But I made a decision to change all that. I chose to become a coach and that action alone began my life changing process. Don’t get me wrong, I’m far from perfect but I am real and I am human. I am learning and growing all the time. I made the decision to make those changes and change my “state” once and for all. I love my life and I want you to be have the ability to change that thought process as well, once and for all.
This is how I did it!

Admitting there is a need for change – It’s called denial! I don’t have a problem, I don’t need to change. If you like the way you are and do not feel the need to change, then don’t. If you want this change then you have to see how you perceive your life. We are all different and everyone’s life and circumstances are different. This all comes down to how we think in our daily life. If you think that things are outstanding then they will be outstanding and you will manifest things as such.

How you use these destructive ways of thinking – We make the decision to think positively from a powerful place. Using different thought processes and patterns depending on the circumstances and events that occur. Recognizing when you use our negative thinking process supports you in changing the thought patterns and changing your state.

Changing your “state” – Your state is where you are in your thought process, your state of mind. How to change it is an exercise, that with practice will come you to you naturally. You can choose to do it slowly or use this thought process to speed up the results.

Get sad…and as soon as you get sad, get sadder, and sadder and then even more sad…almost weeping. The think of something that instantly makes you feel happy. Now repeat this process with quicker changes…make sense? Practice this exercise on an ongoing basis and when you start to think of anything that is less than happy, you know how to instantly change your state.

It’s all in the action and the desire to change, nothing else. If there is the want to then there is a way to. Always is!
The new Ways of Thinking
Now that you have been able to recognize some of the destructive thinking patterns that you have acquired throughout your life, you also have the a few ideas on how to change those patterns.
It’s a choice…you either want to be happy and live a fulfilling and joyful life or you don’t. It really is that simple.
In a short period of time you will notice on how you react to events and people in your life, and how they react to you.

Remember, do onto others….

You will also attract like minded people. Do this little test and see how it works out for you.
Smile at several different people throughout your day, say good morning or just say HI and see what reaction you get. Then do the opposite, be grumpy and ignorant and see what happens. Bet you like the first reactions more.

Just don’t think about wanting to be happy, make a powerful decision to change today.

Nicole Gruendl
Life Success Coach
E: Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com
W: www.NicoleGruendl.com

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Some of the Most Common Single Parent Struggles

Some of the Most Common Single Parent Struggles

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While most of us know how difficult and trying it can be as parents; think of working through all of our stuff without someone, partner, to support us through all of it. Single parenting just tends to be a little more trying and difficult than being part of a 2 parent family. Not only do you have to play the roles of both parents, but you’re financially responsible for a set of bills that are usually paid by two incomes.

Here are some of the most common single parent struggles with tips and strategies on how to overcome them.

Illness: When illness strikes in the single parent household, this time can be very trying. Sometimes even more so if it’s the parent who is ill. As a single parent, there is nobody to fall back on so you are able to recuperate. The need to be available to your child or children at all times is ever so present, depending on the age of the family members. A parent struggling with poor health will still feel the need to get on with household matters depending on the age of the children. This down time will also affect the financial income for some time may be taken off.
When the children are sick, it may require the parent to take time off work to care for them, bringing further financial hardship. There is never any reprieve from a sick child and their need to be comforted.

Money challenges: Going from a double income to little or no income can become the most overwhelming issue to overcome. Being responsible for your own monthly payments becomes a big deal indeed. If you find yourself in a dilemma where there never seems to be sufficient funds to make your payments, think of simplifying or even downsizing. Rid yourself of any extra expenses that you may have incurred while you were bringing in two incomes and make life as simple and easy as possible.
Some ideas on how to be more frugal:
Clip coupons
Shop the sales at your local grocery store
Review all of your bills and consolidate services if possible
Shopping Goodwill stores for your household needs
Buy less expensive computers for children

Selecting Safe and Affordable Child Care: Many single parents are at the mercy of the childcare available in their area. We all want the best in childcare and look for but that for our children. Sometimes the best comes with a with a condition; a higher cost. Private daycares are available along with the different childcare centers. Shop and compare charges and services that they have to offer. Ask each one for references and check to see if there are any financial assistance opportunities available like reduced price lunches.

Discussing Life Matters and Gender Issues: Talking to your child about the facts of life may be a little uncomfortable. Especially when our children are the opposite sex and they have a tendency to feel uncomfortable about this life’s subject. A mom may have a hard time teaching her sons about the things a dad would normally cover and a single father may have difficulties talking about female issues with his daughters. If there is an uncomfortable situation that presents itself in this manner, you should enlist the help of a favorite aunt or uncle or a close family friend to act as a “surrogate parent” for your child. It may be easier for your child to open up to this other significant adult and facilitate this whole process and lessen the pressure and tension that may arise.

The World’s Pressure on You: When there’s only one parent in the household, all of the family responsibilities lay on that person’s shoulders. House Chores, cooking, cleaning, yard word, financial concerns and monitoring, being a chauffeur, and every day tasks of being a parent this makes it that there is not much time for you. It’s easy to see that every single parent needs a break every so often. Make sure you take a break to revive yourself and re-energize. Look for a local teenager who could use some extra money, even if it’s just for a few hours. Maybe even drop them off at a family member for a few hours, giving you the option to do what you want not what you need to do.

The Feeling of Being Alone and Lost: Being a single parent have a difficult time relating to people who do not have children and find themselves isolated at one time or another. They find it difficult to associate with singles who cannot comprehend the responsibility that being a single parent brings. If you find yourself feeling a bit lonely and you want to communicate with people who can relate to what you’re going through, look into joining a nearby support group for single parents. Besides just chatting with other adults and exchanging thoughts and ideas, you may meet a new friend and enlarge your social circle.
After the separation occurs, the parents much be aware that there are emotional turmoils that are transpiring within our children. Often these children often blame themselves for the parent leaving. As they are children, they cannot process the situation without emotion.

Schooling: Taking care of the children’s needs at school is another challenge for the single parent, having to be available for school visits, being home in time after school and dealing with any concerns arising for their children during school hours.

Dating and the Introduction: The timing for introduction will vary for each individual. It’s a situation where you need to be aware of the surrounding and how many people you are dating. Introducing your children to each individual that you have dinner with may not be the most appropriate. While it’s never good to hide a growing relationship from your child, watch that they don’t become emotionally involved with someone you’re dating unless you really think the relationship is going somewhere. This may be an appropriate time to plan an outing and see how they “get along” and possibly move the relationship to a deeper level. Remember, your children will be sensitive to anyone who “tries to take their parent away” from them. There will be some explanation as these relationships progress and move forward. Be aware of the feelings and emotions that become involved as time progresses. Sometimes it happens, but try to minimize the revolving door.

If a child has one stable adult in their lives , they will be thrive. It is your responsibility to be THAT person.

Nicole Gruendl
Life and Success Coach
Nicole@NicoleGruendl.com

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Moms and Life Coaching

As a Single Mom and taking on a new Career as a Life Coach I never knew how difficult it could be to find out my true self or what it even was! I forgot how much I was wrapped up in my child’s life and just life in general, just making ends meet. So much so that I really didn’t see the real struggle it takes to find out that I was sometimes overwhelmed and forgot who I really was.
So much of our lives are wrapped into our family and the role we have as mother, wife, homemaker, chef, driver, it seems that there is never enough time in a day to get things done. That and let alone thinking about ourselves and our well being. Life is trying and until you have a clearly designated time for everything, you will never achieve full success in any area

I do not feel that I speak for just myself or coming from a position as a life coach, I believe I speak for many women out there who are in similar or have been in similar positions as this.
It takes so much for us, as women, to express and say “hey I can’t do this all on my own”. Yes, we are sometimes portrayed as been invincible and the best caretakers. “Mommy knows best.” But as we teach our children and families to balance their lives, who is there supporting us on our own path?
Have you ever found yourself just laying in bed thinking, “there has to be something better out there for me.”

Life Coaching has supported me in reprogramming my train of thought. Learning to believe in myself and that when you listen to your heart and “your gut” you know that your happiness is at your finger tips. With these simple tools, the balance and structure in your and your family life will come with more ease, less stress and demand. This all makes it for a happier and better place. Life is all about Choices and it’s up to you to make the one that works for you and your family. Finding the light in your life, wherever that may come from, is essential for your personal growth. Finding the right coach to support you in this search is imperative.

The first step in working with my clients is finding their Essence, the words that best describe them from their heart and soul; their being. It’s all about truly believing in the process and knowing what your life purpose it. Trusting you!
Think of this. Coaching is the gateway to your greatness and of endless possibility. What does possibility look like for you? Can you imagine creating a list of goals and actually have them flourish? What have you given yourself the right to dream? Are you where you imagined you’d be this time, this year? What are your greatest dreams?
What IS Holding YOU Back?
Is there a lack of physical or mental Energy?
What is your Life purpose?
Your inability to set clear Goals?
Do you have the ability to make solid Plans?
Is it prioritizing?
Your ability to get and stay Organized?
Is it your Attitude?
OR SIMPLY: Are you afraid of your greatness?
Step into your power, follow your heart and your desires and dreams will follow! Create the life that you want, create what is best for you mom, the foundation of the family life.

This give a whole new meaning to the quote “if Mom isn’t happy, nobody is happy.”

Believe in yourself! Put your trust in YOU and trust in your coach!

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What is Life Coaching and how does it benefit YOU?

What is Life Coaching and how does it benefit YOU?

blk-question-mark-smallLife Coaching is an effective way of establishing where you are in your life, where you are going, and how you will get there. By focusing on the Present and Future it supports you in recreating your self confidence, enjoying your work and creating time for yourself and your family.
Why would you need to pay someone to support you through this? Ask yourself this question:  “If I continue doing things as I have been, will I create and achieve my goals? Will I have that fulfilling life that I’ve always wanted?”

Life coaching is not about changing you but becoming who you REALLY are. Being successful is not just about having a great career, or a wonderful family.  It means that you adapt your world to a world that suits you. The more you know about who you are, the easier it will be to achieve what you want and to find what fulfills you.

Clients of Life Coaches experience positive change by revealing what is hidden. Imagine what it would be like to feel more in control, organized, clear about your choices, and that life is filled with unlimited possibilities. You can have all that and more!
The result is a more fulfilling career, more satisfying relationships, more spirituality, and the motivation to reach oneÂ’s greatest potential. If you know that somethingÂ’s holding you back from achieving this in your life, you can find a way to break through those barriers and fears.
Once youÂ’ve made the decision that you want to work with a coach, itÂ’s a good idea to shop around for the right coach. Interview several coaches before making your selection. Ask about their training, background, experience, and philosophy. Then make a commitment to yourself to live a more fulfilled and peaceful life.

The purpose of a Life Coach is essentially to help you:

-Make changes for the better
-Set appropriate goals and achieve them
-Develop your full potential
-Define your idea of a more fulfilling life
-Change negative habits and beliefs
-Voice what you really want – even if you donÂ’t know yet
-Find a new career or direction, if appropriate
-Clarify boundaries at work and at home
-Know yourself better – and perhaps like yourself better!
-Manifest some mushy dreams as well as serious ambitions
-Really live life to the full with passion and conviction

With this powerful client/coach alliance, clients find themselves:

– Doing more than they would on their own
– Taking themselves more seriously
– Creating momentum and consistency
– Taking more effective and focused actions
– Becoming more balanced and fulfilled
– Discovery and experience of life and
– Allowing love and creativity
– Noticing what is so and being with it
– Effortless, flow and peace
-New relationship to chaos, problems,
– Mature, adult relationship with self and others
– Willing to take risks and be vulnerable
– Deepening of intimacy and closeness in relationships
-Purpose is clear and actions are now
– Making dreams come true
-Getting you out of your own way

Do you need life coaching?

-Do you feel overwhelmed?
-Are you stuck in a life rut?
-Are you neglecting yourself, your family, and/or your work?
-Do you feel the stress of too many conflicting forces?
-Do you just react to life versus creating the life you want?

Are you READY:

-I am ready to create more balance in my life.
-I am ready to improve my personal or business relationships.
-I am ready to make real and positive changes in my life.
-I am ready to find and live my life’s purpose.
-I am ready and willing to overcome self-limiting beliefs and behavior.
-I am ready to create plans and take action to achieve my goals.
-I am ready to achieve a sense of fulfillment at work and in my life.
-I am ready for more fun and enjoyment in my life.
-I’d like to work less and make more money.
-I can benefit from someone who will help me to stay on track

So if this sounds like you, please take the initiative in hiring a coach and start creating the life that you really want to live!

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What Every Parent Should Have Access To

Have at least one trusted friend or family member you can call on day or night
These friends or family can also be life savers when you are sick or when there is an emergency. A family member or friend who understands and is there unconditionally and who will be there in your time of need

Be prepared with items in your bag/purse
Gum, granola bars/trail mix, wet-wipes, band-aids, address book, kids book to read, water bottle, cell phone or quarters and your camera. Anything that you can use in time of crisis or if you are delayed in an appointment or have a small emergency

Have a good, reliable babysitter or daycare
Having access to such a person is mandatory for work and for times when you just “need a break”. Trust plays a major role in this area for it’s difficult to find someone who is outside the family environment that you can trust. Take your time and be very choosy when selecting a babysitter

A friend who understands you
Someone who understands who you are and how simple things are going out for coffee and what having grown up conversation means to you. Someone who is willing just to be there and listen and BE with you

Make lists for when you shop
It simplifies things and keeps you organized. It also limits the trips that you have to take to the store when you “forgot” something

Keep an emergency $20 in your wallet
And leave it there. You never know when an emergency will come up that you need that extra couple of dollars

A best friend
Someone who has no strings attached and who is there for the “heavy work”or the work you just need help with
Someone who is there to reflect your thoughts and and fears about life who can give you opinions and advice from a different perspective

A safe and reliable Doctor
A doctor who you can trust and confide in. Someone who understands and can relate to your situation

Save money
Parents often struggle living paycheck to paycheck. But even a limited amount, as low as $10 would be beneficial to your future

Enjoy it
Appreciate every minute of it. Being a parent is not easy.
Treasure this job and treat each day as a gift. A gift that you are a part of your children’s lives

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Goal Setting

Goal Setting

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I was getting ready to write my first speech for Toastmasters, which was very scary for me because I have never done public speaking before.
Thinking about what I wanted to write and used the Coaching concept of Goal setting.  As I sit down to write the article, well AFTER flipping through the mail, I come across the Toastmasters Magazine.  Right on the front page was the article “The value of setting goals.” Perfect!

Did you know the majority of people don’t have life goals, and if they do, they don’t write them down or follow through with them? Life gets in the way and they just push them aside.  Living their life as it’s dealt to them.  Life happens when you’re busy making plans. Right here, it says it all…Goals won’t help, I have no energy!  I can’t do anything!
That’s where I was 2 years ago when I decided being a 9 – 5er was not working for me.  A single mom, paying a mortgage and having a life was difficult on a limited budget.  But what choice did I have?

After a couple of different jobs, and much soul searching, I decided if I wanted to succeed and have the freedom I was seeking; I had to be willing to take risks. Around the same time a friend contacted me about Life Coaching and invited me to one of the sessions. It’s this invitation that made me create a list of goals for myself, write them down, and pursue my career as a life coach!

Having a love for people has directed me to the Coaching Industry.  Some often find themselves with no focus, no goals, unhappy with their career… they are just STUCK!  My ability to assist them in finding their true being will lead them to fulfilling their goals and ultimately their dreams!!!!  To expand on the client/coach relationship, I will be offering seminars, CD’s and DVD’s to further assist my clients.  Providing them with such media and information will in turn be the foundation needed for myself and my family to pursue my own goals and fulfill my dreams!

With that said, my other goals are rather modest. A log home overlooking the lake, a wake board boat with sky skies, wake boards and other water toys to share with friends and family! Can you see if now? Basking in the sun with a nice cold beverage  ahhh…Oh sorry.  Lost myself for a moment!  Since my son and I are avid boaters, these items are a must in our lives!  We sky ski and wake board throughout the year.  To expand our knowledge and show our love for the sports, we would be attending to the several water sport tournaments.  Having a house on a lake is very special to me.  The serenity from the water is one that I can share while working with my clients.  The thing about Life Coaching is that people FEEL you and know how you are being with them even though they can’t see you.  There is nothing more calming than listening to the water splashing on the shore.  So you see, it’s not just a place to live, it’s a place to share with everyone that is a part of my life, family, friends and clients alike.

Next one is travel related. I have never explored outside of North America and to expand on that is a life long dream!  First stop, France. Visiting the Bordeaux regions, and doing the fancy pants wine tasting at the Moet ET Chandon vineyards!  The vast fields of laden grape vines, the Chateaux where the walls, if they could talk, would tell you centuries of tales!  And the main event, the wine tasting! I watch in anticipation as the sommelier pours each of us a glass of wine!  The Legs of the wine streaming down the sides of the glass, the bouquet that tickles your nasal passage and oh the flavor that brings your taste buds alive as you swish the around in your mouth!  What a decadent experience.  Now add a little cheese and chocolate; Oh my…isn’t life grand?

Onto the next place we go!  Tokyo JAPAN! Konichiwa   My son’s love for martial arts, Japanese culture and Darn good sushi, has made this a must place to visit!  Walking along the streets of Tokyo amidst the thousands of people would be an experience in itself.  Coming across a little DoJo, looking like a little hole in the wall, is nothing but that inside.  The weaponry, the kicking bags, the bamboo walls, Korey is awe struck! The Dojo master enters and Korey introduces himself and explains, in Japanese, why we are there.  They invite us to a training session which has produced a smile on his face that will linger for quite some time! I myself think I’m going to die!!!  The aches and pains…did I sign up for this?
Lunch time!  Having worked up a sweat we wanted sushi.  As we sat we were greeted with quite the, lets say, interesting experiences.  Have to tell you, I am a rather Outgoing person with the “food that I don’t know” I decided to stick with the basics, you know California rolls, tuna Salmon.  Stuffed beyond our beliefs, we decide to walk it off through some of the gardens.  The array of colors and rocks in these areas are amazing.  Again, every garden has a story.  What a great read they would be!!!

African safari time! My friend, Randy shared his adventures and treks of when he backpacked through Africa.  His experiences and stories have me captivated! He had the opportunity to play with baby cheetahs, to see the hyenas from the top of the vehicles at night roaming through his camp or simple listening to the lions roar. His story telling brings you right there and places you amidst the lions! Then to see the Egyptian pyramids up close in all of their majesty!  Standing at the base of the sphinx
People speak of their adventures but to get the true gist of it all, you must just go out and do it! But really this is all about with the people and cultures; getting to know who they really are and what the world is really all about. The idea with these travel adventures is not about the scenery or the places  but the ability to share this experience with my loved ones!

Now these dreams and goals may seem a little unrealistic to some.  But why should they?  Are not all dreams obtainable if we just set it in our minds and our hearts?  Maybe life does get in the way, but only if we let it.  So why not dream big, why not take the chance?  Why not set these goals?
You don’t have to go to Africa, you can just GO!
I believe goals are important in life.  They give you something to focus on and work towards   Here is a takeaway from the Toastmasters Magazine that evening that will assist you or your friends in fulfilling your goals :  First:
1-    Write them down
2-    Be clear and Specific
3-    Make them measurable
4-    Set a time limit…A what by when
5-    Break projects down into small, more manageable units
6-    Establish Stepping stone goals
7-    Post goals around the house

With that mitt full of information go out and create your goals!  Tell everyone about what you have heard!  If they need that kick in the pants, have them call me and I’d be glad to assist them in their pursuit of happiness!!!!

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Powerful Ways to Show Love to Your Children

Powerful Ways to Show Love to Your Children

Our children are most important to us . However, our love is the biggest gift we could ever give to our children. Here are some ways to show love that will support them in creating a more fulfilling and loving life!

  1. Spend Time with Your Children –Our Time is the most precious gift we can give to our children. By taking time out of our busy schedules to see what they are involved in is a precious gift.
  2. Be a Strong Role Model — Teach practical values to your children by modeling those values.  Use words like “I’m sorry,” “please,” and “thank you.”
  3. Listen to Your Children –  Children need to communicate their pride of accomplishment as well as their needs. If you listen to your children deeply, they will grow up listening deeply to you.
  4. Provide Loving Discipline — Use non-violent forms of discipline. Children need guidelines and safe boundaries without being constrained unnecessarily.
  5. Always be Encouraging — Encouraging words are powerful emotional deposits of confidence and self-esteem. Loving them and praising their accomplishments are all part of this process.
  6. Be emotionally available for your children  –  When your child is angry, argumentative or in a bad mood, give him a hug, cuddle, pat, secret sign or other gesture of affection he favors and talk with him about his feelings.
  7. Share Your Experiences with Your Children – We all have valuable, life learning stories to share with our children.  Sharing these stories is a loving way to guide your children.
  8. Provide unconditional Love and Support — Love is an unconditional gift from the heart;  This message creates a sturdy bond of trust and your children will grow to feel safe in coming to you with any problem they face.
  9. Own a Pet — Owning a pet can make children, especially those with chronic illnesses and disabilities, feel better by stimulating physical activity, enhancing their overall attitude, and offering constant companionship.
  10. Make family Time — Mark family game nights on your calendar so the entire family can be together. This encourages a strong bond that will then create a more loving, encouraging and forgiving family.
  11. Involve your children in cooking activities — One of the best ways to familiarize your child with good food choices is to encourage him to cook with you.
  12. Provide the Necessary Tools for their Personal Growth – Provide them with  as much as possible by encouraging them and providing the equipment and instruction needed in this growth, whether it be educational, spiritual or sports oriented.
  13. LOVE is the one word that can sum up If you could sum up , all of our children’s needs, hopes, and expectations in one word, that word would be LOVE . We share love in every aspect of their lives and by doing so, this creates a guiding influence for our children  for many generations.
  14. And last but not least…NEVER ever stop telling your children that you LOVE them.

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